Most people consider marital separation a somewhat difficult process. After all, divorce signals the end of one chapter of life, which can be a frightening prospect. However, it is important to know that divorce also provides an opportunity to become emotionally stronger and more confident. One psychologist and life coach claims that a positive attitude, even if forced, can make the difference between starting life after divorce on the right foot and beginning it on the wrong foot.
Her first tip: accept the separation and view it as an opportunity for improvement. Partners separate for a reason and many are less happy together than apart. It may not be easy to get past the feelings of hurt, anger and uncertainty associated with separation, but viewing divorce as a positive, life-changing experience can lay a strong foundation for the future.
In addition, the end of a marriage provides soon-to-be ex-spouses the chance to focus on themselves and discover new hobbies and life skills that can lead to happiness. Separation can be a time for self-reflection, discovery and trying new things, although it may require putting on a good face and pretending to be happy when actually feeling disheartened. Luckily, Orange County provides plenty of outdoor activities and fun sites for newly single people to experience.
The majority of life during and after divorce is transforming a negative attitude into a positive one, says one psychologist and life coach. Similarly, many view legal separations as undesirable or harmful, but oftentimes divorce can make both parties happier in the future. In Orange County, pursuing legal separation can mean spending more time in the sunshine and less in marriage gloom.
Source: Huffington Post, “Divorce Advice: How To Have A Happy Divorce“, Dr. Lisa Kaplin, July 22, 2013