The divorce process can be emotionally challenging at times. Both good parents and bad parents file for divorce in California, with all its attendant support and child custody issues. However, good parents worry about how the dissolution of their marriage affects their innocent children, who may feel trapped in the middle of a situation they did not create. These parents often follow the ideas below to minimize the damaging effects of divorce on their kids.
Experts remind divorcing parents that children are attuned to emotional cues, unconsciously picking up on parents’ behavior for clues on how they should handle different situations. For this reason, dropping off kids with the other parent should be handled calmly. Anxiety is often felt when leaving the children for a period. The important thing is not show this emotion to the children, as they often interpret a parent’s anxiety about an environment’s safety. Especially in contentious child custody disputes, parents do best by their kids by keeping their cool.
Another tip from family law experts is to not express anger, disgust or other negative emotions about the other parent when around the children they share. When one of his or her parents is insulted or spoken about badly, the youngster often absorbs this and may turn the feelings inward against him- or herself. Better to keep adult judgments between the adults.
Both parents in a California divorce should remember that the process can ultimately be beneficial for the children involved. The interests of children involved may be best protected with help from an attorney experienced in child custody issues. The uncertainty of this transitional time will end, and one’s sensitive children will ultimately feel the relief and happiness of each parent as closure is achieved.
Source: Huffington Post, “Why Every Divorcing Parent Screws Up (and Why It’s OK)“, Kate Scharff, August 06, 2013