When a woman in California and around the nation finds herself earning a salary that equals or exceeds her husband’s, she may be required to pay her husband alimony when they get a divorce. This change has produced mixed feelings in both the women making the payments and the men receiving them.
Traditionally, alimony has been paid by husbands who worked outside of the home while their wives stayed home to take care of their children. However, many families now have two working parents, and there are a growing number of cases where the wife has a more lucrative career, and her husband chooses to forego his career and stay home to care for their kids. This change in gender roles presents challenges for both men and women, as they struggle with how they are perceived by society and how they perceive themselves. These cases also create a unique challenge for courts in cases where these unions end in divorce.
Because alimony is intended to compensate spouses who chose to forego their own careers and provide unpaid support to their children and spouses, it is becoming more common to see men who have chosen to put their careers on the back burner receive alimony payments from their breadwinning wives. Whether the alimony-paying spouse is a man or a women, problems often arise in second marriages when the household income is adversely effected by ongoing payments to ex-husbands or ex-wives. This is leading many to call for changes in determining when alimony should be awarded and for how long.
Divorce is a major change that has a lasting impact on the futures of wives, husbands, and children. When working with families facing such an important life choice, family law attorneys clarify law and provide guidance to help navigate and find solutions to difficult problems.
Source: Time, “The De-Gendering of Divorce: Wives Pay Ex-Husbands Alimony Too Read more: http://ideas.time.com/2013/05/16/the-de-gendering-of-divorce-wives-pay-ex-husbands-alimony-too/#ixzz2TqIqoViU“, Liza Mundy, May 16, 2013