In divorce, the children should come first

Divorce can be a difficult time in a person’s life. This is especially true if child custody is part of the proceedings. The adults are often very angry at each other and not considering what is in the children’s best interests.

There are several things parents can do to ease the painful process of divorce for their children. It is suggested that parents should not play the blame game with each other, nor should they try and get the children on their side. In the end, such tactics are a waste of time since placing blame accomplishes nothing. It is confusing for children to feel animosity toward either of their parents. Another important thing to consider is the visitation schedule. It’s not about the parent’s convenience, but rather, what’s best for the children.

Acknowledging change is, generally, a step forward. Being a co-parent is not the same as living in the same household. Often, one parent may not like what the kids are eating or watching when they are with the ex-spouse. However, unless it’s something life threatening, it’s important to realize that some control has to be relinquished in a co-parenting situation. Eventually, one or both parents may begin dating again. It can be unsettling, but if handled in a respectful manner, everyone benefits. It is not unreasonable to wish to be informed of a new person interacting with the children, nor is it unreasonable to want to meet them.

Divorce is a difficult situation. This is especially true if children are involved. A California divorce attorney may be able to help create a custody agreement that is beneficial to everyone. An attorney can be more impartial and negotiate visits that work with everyone’s schedule.

Source: Fox News, “4 tips for parents going through divorce,” Tina Paone and Thomas Petrelli, Apr. 21, 2013